I
have been struggling with something for some time, something that seems to be
present everywhere I go...opinions. Now I am not saying opinions are a
bad thing, because we all are entitled to them and we all have them, I am
referring to how people share them and the violent manner in which some people
respond when they react to opinions they don't agree with.
I
think in a time and age that opinions can be shared with the entire world on
Twitter, Facebook, and blogs like mine there needs to be some consideration
given to how one presents their opinion. Through out the day I hear and
see people share their opinions, I have found some that are eloquent and open
minded when sharing their opinion and then there are others who seem to be
under the misguided impression that their opinion should be the only opinion
for everybody. These people present their opinions in a manner that dares
anyone to disagree with them, under the impression that theirs is the only
opinion acceptable. These opinions often include , but are not limited to
breastfeeding, where to live, what car everyone should drive, the best diet,
diet-life choices, exercise, what cell phone carrier is the best, when the
board results came out last year, Navy regulations, life choices, and the list
goes on and one.
We
all know the saying about opinions and how they are like something else
everyone else has...but in reality we all have one. Where this opinion
comes from is unique for each and every person. Our upbringing, our past, our
morals, our values, what we personally are committed to, and knowledge all
contribute to the formation of our opinion. Looking at opinions is like
looking at snowflakes, they are all unique. So, when sharing yours know
that it is YOURS and may be YOURS ALONE. shoving your life choices or
opinions on others is like trying to make your finger print match some else's.
I
have come to a point where I tend to keep my opinion to myself on Facebook and
other social media. I have seen someone ask a simple question like, "Where
is the best place on island to get your hair colored?" and have it turn
into an all out drama, filled with warring opinions. First of all, who
has the energy to fight with strangers over the best place to get your hair
colored, and second of all, everyone's hair is different so what may work for
you may not work for me. My former stylist in Hawaii was like a sister to
me, and when I moved to Guam I was not looking for a stylist who wanted to chat
and talk while she did my hair because I was not looking for someone to replace
her, I wasn't looking for a friend, I just needed someone competent to do my
hair. Maybe you are the person who likes to chit chat while you get your hair
done, which would make our opinions...GASP...different!
Additionally, as we
experience life we often form opinions based on experience and lessons
learned. For example, a new Navy wife is
going to have a much different opinion than that of a 26 year Master Chief’s
wife. The Master Chief’s wife has
experienced much more than the new Navy wife, and has formed opinions based on
those experiences. Another factor is
there is most likely a generation between the Master Chief’s wife and the new Navy
wife, which will give them different
perspectives in shaping their opinions.
Is either of them right or wrong?
They are both right ! I know, I know some of you over opinionated people
out there can’t handle two people being right, at the same time, about the same
thing. However, they are both right because they are forming their opinions
based on personal experience and knowledge.
The key to harmony is each of them respecting the others individual
opinion.
Living in a military
community cannot be experienced anywhere else in the world. You are bringing thousands of people at
different stages of their career and life, from different parts of the world,
with different family backgrounds and upbringings, and different education
levels and experiences together, inside a gate under often-stressful
situations. All of us need to learn to respect
the value of each other’s opinions and take into account the things that make
up our differences.
We are entitled to our
opinions, but remember if you are entitled to yours, someone else is also
entitled to theirs. Let’s use some
maturity and grace when sharing or listening to each other’s opinions.
Well written! We can never learn to get along or be united if we don't value the perspective and opinions of others, even if they offer from ours.
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